About two months ago I was reading a blog. On this blog the writer occasionally advocates for special need kids in China. She posted a picture of a sweet looking three year old boy in China who was born with a heart condition (transposition of the great arteries). He is currently living in an orphanage. His lips and fingers are turning blue - and he will die without this surgery. The orphanage will not provide the surgery.
I am always on the look out
for how God is calling us...if not Bryan (a baby who'd been placed in our family for 29 days in Nov./Dec. 2011 before his birth mom changed her mind), then who or what? On a whim I
emailed the blog writer asking for the contact info. of the agency. Then I sent an email to them, Great Wall China Adoption, to see if he still needed a family. In the meantime I talked
with a friend who has done a special needs Korean adoption. I talked with her
agency. For a China adoption you must make $10K for each family member
including the new child. We don't. Apparently waivers used to be given
by China for certain things...but this agency said the last few waivers
they have applied for have been denied. Even waivers for special focus kids -
those with more serious special needs. Okay God - that is a no go on
Then Great Wall China Adoption emailed me back about my inquiry
about the 3 year old. I told them we didn't make enough money so I
didn't think we could proceed. She emailed that we could fill out a form
- with no commitment to their agency or this child - that she would submit
it to China and see if a waiver is possible. Okay - why not? A few days
later she sent me this child's medical write up and
additional photos. When she sent me the file she put this child "on
hold" for us while we reviewed the file. What?! We were sure we wouldn't
the waiver, didn't really think about it much, AND asked her to take him
off hold since we didn't even know if we would proceed. A month went
by. I got an email with the subject line "Green Light!". Umm -
wait...now what?! Then I looked at the Great Wall photo listing and this child was *still*
on hold for us. What? Apparently he has been on their list for several
months and NO family has inquired about him. Families are MUCH more
interested in girls AND his serious heart condition scares others
away. Maybe God kept him on hold for us?
So Erik and I are
talking...praying...talking...and came up with three very good reasons
not to move forward with this adoption. 1. We don't have the money (It costs ~26K+) 2. We previously adopted a three year old and know how challenging it was at times for her - and she spoke English and wasn't even in an orphanage! 3. I have the baby bug/want a
baby...and he is not one. That weekend we showed up at small group.
The couple that lead the small group have adopted three kids - two from
China (one is special needs). NO ONE ELSE showed up to small group! We spent the whole time
asking them about their China adoptions and then we all prayed together
about it. Totally a God thing! Erik and I decided to fast and pray the next day. We asked our older kids to join us in praying throughout the
day. When we came together at the end of the day both of us felt God
telling us to take the next step forward with this adoption.
Surprisingly the kids agreed.
We don't have the money (we lack $21K of the $26K needed) and an
international adoption seems daunting...but we are stepping forward in
faith. We are trusting that if God wants him to be a part of our family we will be able to raise the funds. The typical time
line is one year. If the doctors feel it is necessary due to his heart
condition the agency can try and expedite his case. This would need to
be done in terms of the US government and the Chinese Government.
Expedite means he would be home in six months. Today we requested an updated echocardiogram. This will help the doctors determine how much longer he can live without surgery.
seems overwhelming. One step at a time. We are under no illusion this
will be a fairy tale. This child was three in January. He is in an
orphanage, doesn't speak English, and is sick. It is very sad to read
his medical file. Apparently it is illegal to put your child up for
adoption in China. Birth parents will leave their babies in a public
place where they will be found. Frequently the birth parents will hide around the corner to
make sure their baby is found. He was left in a hospital waiting room - with a
note saying his birth date (which made him 2 months old). It is hard
just to turn our backs knowing that no other family has even inquired
about him/wants to adopt him. Please pray with us that we are following
God in this journey.